Divorced and Distraught
I remember as a young christian woman, newly divorced, I was distraught. When I sought the bible for help and direction it first seemed to condemn and punish a divorced woman to loneliness and sorrow.
The scripture said she could never marry again. At the time, I had no idea my interpretation was incorrect. It was only when two Jewish or Christian people married did this apply. So I rebelled and in misery walked away from the Church because I did not know to seek ministerial counseling.
Divorced and Dating?
Unfortunately, the christians I talked to all agreed to my misinformation that I was doomed. I was a 26 year old looking at God condemning me to being single forever, because my abusive husband committed adultery, had a child on me and left our family.
So I went back into the world and tried it in sin.Previously, I had led my mother, friends and their family to Christ and the Rock Church. But I had lost all faith that God loved women after this debacle and farce. I became utterly dejected and bitter from the ignorance bred by religious Christians in my life who were to blame. I didn’t have a computer or internet, this was 20 years ago.
Baby Mama Blues
My ex husband had been my second relationship ever. I was young and naive so after he left, in fear, confusion, and loneliness I resolutely ended up in several more abusive and broken relationships thinking, this was as good as it gets for a used woman. Now, I am a twiced divorce, single mother of not one, but four children.
This has been the plight of many single divorced christian mother’s.We are the young widows the Bible speaks of that need to marry rather than burn with desire and gossip.
Too bad no one told us our heroine is Ruth. She was a widow, a Moabites bitch, is what they called her. And God married her to the richest, most respected and godly man because God measures faith not our tattered past.
When you are a Christian woman married to a man who does not practice Christianity your marriage is not bound by the spiritual covenant of the authority of Christ. So the laws of till death do you part don’t apply.
Being a Christian is not about a label. It’s about being in a committed relationship to serve Christ in your life and relationships. If you break that vow you will reap the consequences. That’s basic law of attraction.
Sinful Marriages, Christian Divorces
My marriages streamed from sin, not salvation. What was born of the flesh thus died of the flesh. It’s karma and it’s Biblical. My mariage failed because God, Holy Spirit, and Jesus Christ were not given access to govern or bless our union. When I got saved in my first marriage God blessed me with His grace, but to Christ I was married to a dead thing.
Praying For Your Marriage
As I prayed for my marriage two things happened. First, I anointed my house with oil, prayed over my husband while he slept, and gave my tithes. Satan responded by leading him to adultery.
Finally, God rescued me from that doomed marriage by keeping me safe, but allowing Satan to have my husband. My husband had free will. He chose his flesh and destroyed our marriage.
Years later he married his mistress. I forgave them both, and came back to church to heal, still thinking I was doomed until my new Pastor at Jesus People Life Changing Church set me free.
My ex husband and girlfriend experienced three miscarriages after the birth of their son. Six weeks after finally marrying her she died. My ex’s life slowly unraveled into poor health,depression, and financial failure.
A Fool, A King and A Prophetess
That is the consequence of chasing the flesh. Satan will try to lure you with glittering green eyes and blonde hair only for it to lead to death. The biblical example of this is Prophetess Abigail.
She was married to Nabal, a fool. Nabal dropped deadof a heart attack due to his gluttony. This freed Abigail to marry David whom shortly after marrying her became King.
So there are examples in the Bible for divorced women. Christian women put away from their unsaved husbands are like widows. But unfortunately, for those that seek the church for grace and mercy still shame and lies are extended instead.
How False Religion Destroys Lives
Such was given to me, and when I found truth it was too late. I was already pregnant with my third child, going on my second marriage. During that pregnancy I was shamed and brought in front of the church to apologize for creating him.
This is the damage that false religion, and Biblical mistranslations can do. It literally ruins generations of families and millions of women’s lives all over the world.
And we wonder why the son of a pimp, with a pimps regard to women, was voted president? These types of Christians are who voted him in!
New Leaders, New Hope
We need christian leaders like my pastor, at Alive Church, who studies and researches the Bible for himself. A pastor that seeks truth, loves everyone and isn’t afraid to say it. I have been blessed with an amazing church who loves me as I am, and pushes me towards greatness.
That’s why I love my spiritual leadership. I am a volunteer in the television broadcast ministry and actively involved in my Single mother’s group. I am blessed with christian leadership that seeks to love and not shame or condemn people for their mistakes.
Esther And Ruth Generation
We also need women like myself, Esther’s of a new generation, which have been misled, traumatized and overcome false religiosity, to speak out! Women that will lead our faith in love for all humankind and help heal women and girls in the church, robbed of their divinity by misogynist wolves in sheep’s clothing.
And we need christian leaders not ashamed to call God Mother too, and teach the amazing truth that women are the face of the Holy Spirit Mother, as Mary was, and that God calls divorced women FREE to marry again in Christ.
It is time to end church propaganda which degrades women, misleads and destroys lives. It is time to purge the church of all that does not equate to love. We need more Esthers, Naomis, Ruths, Rahabs, Hagars, Abigails, Marys, and women at the well.
Who’s with me?
Molecules of Magic and Atoms of Amazing love to you all!!!